What's It All About?


"The unexamined life is not worth living." Socrates

While you’re here, in this time and in this space, you are beautiful and you are perfect.

You are right where you need to be to get to where you want to go, so start asking yourself where you want to go.

"Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase." MLK

Thursday, August 6, 2026

State of Mind

Aka What Do I Really Want 

I’ve been listening to a lot of audiobooks of stories written by Nora Roberts and every once in a while, I’ll come across some dialogue that she’s written that just really strikes close to home when it comes to thinking about my feelings about love and relationships …

Current dialogue has the female character getting asked out in a second date by the male character and it just got me thinking…

I wish I wasn’t always the one suggesting the time and place for us to meet up, example - why don’t I stop by your work? I mean I do it because it’s the only way I know for sure I’m gonna see him... but

I’d really love it if, once in a while, he was the one who picked the time and place and invited me out. It would make me feel really pursued and special.

And I’ve been thinking a lot lately about what reality for us means but I don’t think we really can know because really the first thing that has to happen, is that he has to untangle his relationship with her. We need to go through the experiences in real time and that means he has to be available in order for us to give it a real chance. And that's the heart of it. 

Life is gonna continue to go on one day after the next and there’s gonna be ups and downs, but I think who you come home to at the end of the night matters a lot. Who you share your bed with matters a lot. Who knows how much of an amazing person you are and shows you and tells you often matters a lot. 

And while I love O and V with every fiber of my being, they’re not my forever people. They're eventually moving on with their own lives. B is my forever person and I wanna live with him. I wanna share life with him. I wanna share life with him and A. I want him to be the rest of my life and to be with him the rest of my life. 

I don’t know how the first part of what I talked about plays into the rest of it but they're just both on my mind and heart. 
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Noire

Noire
She'll be 2 years in 2 months! Time flies!

Things I'm grateful for everyday....

- My family
- My friends, old and new.
- A roof over my head.
- My computer & internet access
- Being employed (even if I don't always like things about my job)
- The public library and the joy of borrowing books with/on/for my Kindle
- That I can walk on two legs, use 2 arms/hands, have ten fingers/toes, can see and hear, etc. (uh, no offense to anyone who is physically challenged)
- Other people's creativity and efforts
- The love of a good man (he IS good)

Current Favorite Quotes

“Be content with what you have, rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.” - Lao Tzu
"The privilege of a lifetime is to be who you are." ~ Joseph Campbell
"Reflect upon your present blessings, of which every man has plenty; not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some." ~ Charles Dickens
"We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves happy. The amount of work is the same." -Carlos Castañeda
"..there’s something lovely about knowing that when it’s right, you really know it’s right because you’ve already been through all the wrong." ~ Sade
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." ~ Theodor Geisel (Dr. Seuss)
"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." —Mark Twain

(This bit not so much as a quote but somethings I wrote down that I want to keep and this looks like a good place to do it)

7-25-07

1. Almost everything comes from almost nothing.
2. The best way to predict your future is to create it.
3. Leap and the net will appear.

Facts of Life (per Sonya Friedman)

  • 1. No one can bring your life to you
  • 2. No matter what you do, someone important isn't going to like it
  • 3. Though painful, rejection won't kill you - it may even lead to growth
  • 4. Every choice means giving up something different
  • 5. Some people aren't capable of giving you what you're trying to get from them
  • 6. The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others
  • 7. There are no quick fixes that can permanently change your life
  • 8. Life is on a rheostat, not an on/off switch
  • 9. Some problems cannot be solved - but you can make peace with them