What's It All About?


"The unexamined life is not worth living." Socrates

While you’re here, in this time and in this space, you are beautiful and you are perfect.

You are right where you need to be to get to where you want to go, so start asking yourself where you want to go.

"Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase." MLK

Sunday, March 15, 2026

Betsy part I

AKA Life w/out Betsy

It’s been days since I’ve driven her. She’s just been sitting in the garage, resting. I’ve been told that she should be put out to pasture, but I’m fighting it hard. She’s been such a good car, probably the best car I’ve ever had, even better than Suzette. Well, maybe it’s a tie between Betsy and Suzette. I’ve had them about the same amount of time and the work that they needed was kind of similar actually from a financial standpoint…so OK so that’s also reminding me that I’ve survived this before. I’ll survive it again. 


There’s a new car for me out there to love and to take good care of me and family while we drive around town getting back-and-forth to school and work and errands and not being trapped here at home …though it’s kind of a nice trap sometimes ….but it’s also been really great for us to have two cars  —— helps a lot when there’s a kid in the mix. 


And part of the reason I’m gaining weight back is that I’m not doing any of the physical activity I was when driving’s  I need that stair workout, it helps! 


     I really hope this new med works and the side effects are less terrible! 


So here we are halfway through March and the job at Opportunity Partners didn’t work out and I’m back to a just one, this unpaid leave from Dragonfly …


I’m supposed to be getting the first check any day now…though yeah I was totally right frame in my head in quotes “check is in the mail” …quotes being the code for - ha ha you’ll be lucky if you get it! 


And there’s supposed to be more eventually.


In the meantime, need to find a new job -  companion, not caregiver. 


Need to find a new car,


I need to get back on infusions (which means first I need to pay off my co-pay past due balance) which means I need to get some money, real money cause 

I also need to pay the March mortgage and the March HOA fee…


*sigh* 


so that’s the state of Sam at this particular moment in time.


And it’s HIS birthday tomorrow. And for the first time ever (or at least in over a decade) I’m not prepared at all and it’s the day before and what the fuck am I gonna do???? 


So it’s either gonna be (thank God for) DoorDash and delivery cause I could find a card and something and have it delivered tomorrow (not asking for today while there’s a blizzard going on…not without giving a super big tip which would eat into the funds I have) …


Hmmm so now to think about or research….go the traditional route or do a birthday post here in the blog…


Share my thoughts and feelings about his being born with the world this time instead of just keeping between us. 


Speaking of that, somebody recently asked how many people read it and I said I don’t know …but that there was somewhere I could look …from the last time I looked I have more than just one reader and so if you are one of the people reading this, well thank you! ♥️♥️ 


I know I don’t post a whole lot but what is posted feels important enough to me that I want it to be documented and ….

And who are we kidding, it’s also another way of “hearing” myself talk about me ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚


But seriously, I just need a place to express myself and do another thing I love, which is writing. 


Before I stop for today, question…to have more coffee or not?? My home cold brew concoctions are really quite tasty.


Onward and upwards. 

Friday, November 28, 2025

Thanksgiving week 2025

I got my first hug from B yesterday - since we got back together - and it was EVERYTHING. 

He is my rock. I am loved. I'm cared for. I have someone I can say anything to. I can be 1000% myself. 

Love comes in so many varieties, and they all count. 

People that know don't necessarily approve. I get it. I've shared more about my feelings on the "bad" more than I've shared "good" so yeah...we all love me and want to see me get what I want. 

And I still want what I wanted before. 

And I will ask him to talk about it. We need to tear down some of the walls that we've built and built-up the last few years.

Is he my "Mr. Big"? Or is he my "lobster"? He is both. 

And that's all there is to it.

Friday, October 17, 2025

New Chapter

https://youtu.be/oHs98TEYecM?si=PMdpGaEtjXUo5TFA

Choosing someone who makes me feel safe, loved and cared for and I get to be unapologetically myself. Yes. 

Welcome back B 

We have our own vows - and I do - say yes to a life with him in it. 

They are about to say 'I do', three little letters, two little words. 

Its the simplest part of the day; but there is nothing simple about the things that will remain unsaid.


'I do' means I do know I could be hurt, but I am ready to be healed with you.


It means I do want to try, even when the fear of failure holds me back.

And I do not know the future, but I am ready to be surprised along the way.


'I do' means I do want your love & I do give you mine.


And nothing we do will ever be the same, because we will be doing it all together.   


I choose you, only you my love. 

Friday, October 10, 2025

October Symphony

Notes written/notepad that belong here. 

Now that I’ve embraced posting via mobile apps, I’ll be able to post more. 

I’ve got lots of stuff to document. Then again, will I really want to reread all of this? Not really. In the meantime, for my small devoted audience…

 Notes: 

Notes 1 - Assault

⁃ I think I left my body because I don’t even wanna think about the pain I was feeling from getting that beating. I mean, I still can’t even believe it really happened. And here I am just trying to do the right thing and get some Workmen’s Comp. from my company, but they just are being assholes about it. 

⁃ I’m glad I have a lawyer! 

And…

Note - 2 - D also stands for Done

Well D disappeared for about 3 days and then said needs slow things down, take a break. Alrighty then. I know what that means. 

I got what I needed out of him and I was really struggling with how to move forward. I mean we had fun. Another “meh” experience sex-wise but at least I finally got fucked. In spite of that, it was a good experience -music! but yeah, I feel OK about it. 

He’ll just be another guy on Facebook that I’ve been with, but we didn’t end up together. I’ve got a few of those now. I wonder if I should worry about that? I don’t know.

And B popped back into the picture briefly. (Yeah you did) 

☯️☯️

Am I really accepting all of that? So…coldly

Yeah, I’ve already been battered physically and emotionally and these are just more bruises on my soul. 

Back to life as I know it as a single woman. 

Oh and more sucky things

-SD has cancer and prognosis isn’t great. 

-R in hospital, serious diabetes issue - sent him message that if he wants to have a pity party for 2 that we could FT tonight and be miserable and complain together to get it out of our systems. We’ll see if that happens. I pretty much just did that in this post.  

Tuesday, September 30, 2025

D is most definitely in the picture

Well I am in the car, on the way grab some food, then V do my makeup and O/V and V’s new friend L are dropping me off at the airport. I’m flying up to Duluth this evening for our first meeting. I am smitten kitten! 

Keep you posted! 


Tuesday, September 16, 2025

So THAT happened and that.

So it’s mid-September and I am home recovering From being assaulted by G at the Richfield house. I’m also recovering from finding someone I could have truly fallen in love with to now being ghosted, D. I am not gonna be a victim and I’m not gonna blame myself, for either situation. 

Sure, maybe with D I maybe got ahead of myself and talked too much but I was really giving as much as I was getting. 

OK, so I have literally and emotionally taken a beating in the last week and just fuck it all. 



Saturday, July 19, 2025

55 is Right Around the Corner

And I'm actually OK with that. It's the next chapter. Tonight, first night feel like this job is going to work out for me.

And

I ate chia seeds for the first time and I liked them!!!!! Granted, it was a chocolate pudding with strawberries and cacao nibs. Wasn't sure at first but was a fan at the end!! 

So this is my life at this stage of my life. Feeling capable again and fuck do I ever love getting a paycheck!!!!

Now to just get back on track financially. 

And this is my life .... working overnights for Dragonfly and have a lot of freedom! 

V continues to make me proud, love him more, frustrate less...so so fucking lucky to have them both in my life!! 

Noire

Noire
She'll be 2 years in 2 months! Time flies!

Things I'm grateful for everyday....

- My family
- My friends, old and new.
- A roof over my head.
- My computer & internet access
- Being employed (even if I don't always like things about my job)
- The public library and the joy of borrowing books with/on/for my Kindle
- That I can walk on two legs, use 2 arms/hands, have ten fingers/toes, can see and hear, etc. (uh, no offense to anyone who is physically challenged)
- Other people's creativity and efforts
- The love of a good man (he IS good)

Current Favorite Quotes

“Be content with what you have, rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.” - Lao Tzu
"The privilege of a lifetime is to be who you are." ~ Joseph Campbell
"Reflect upon your present blessings, of which every man has plenty; not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some." ~ Charles Dickens
"We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves happy. The amount of work is the same." -Carlos Castaรฑeda
"..there’s something lovely about knowing that when it’s right, you really know it’s right because you’ve already been through all the wrong." ~ Sade
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." ~ Theodor Geisel (Dr. Seuss)
"
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." —Mark Twain

(This bit not so much as a quote but somethings I wrote down that I want to keep and this looks like a good place to do it)

7-25-07

1. Almost everything comes from almost nothing.
2. The best way to predict your future is to create it.
3. Leap and the net will appear.

Facts of Life (per Sonya Friedman)

  • 1. No one can bring your life to you
  • 2. No matter what you do, someone important isn't going to like it
  • 3. Though painful, rejection won't kill you - it may even lead to growth
  • 4. Every choice means giving up something different
  • 5. Some people aren't capable of giving you what you're trying to get from them
  • 6. The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others
  • 7. There are no quick fixes that can permanently change your life
  • 8. Life is on a rheostat, not an on/off switch
  • 9. Some problems cannot be solved - but you can make peace with them