E moved out on 2/1/23. I missed her immediately.
And I find myself with an empty room again. So I'm writing up an ad and/or email to someone
Finally attending survivors of suicide loss support group but they haven't pierced my shell yet. Close, but no cigar. I'm not sure it's a good idea for me to live alone at this time. I'm barely holding the grief at bay because I'm in deep denial land. And when I fully accept it, it just might break me.
I lost the last person who loved me unconditionally and was free and open with that love. What about my brother you say? Well, he's close to that but just like with my parents, the religion is in between us.
So this is what I'm looking at when it comes to a new roommate.
I am putting this out in the universe, in this form of a blog post this time around.
Hey there. Well, I'm a 52-year old woman, with a cat, living in a condo - up one long flight of stairs -that has a spare room. It's not that big but it will fit the basics and has a ton of built in storage. I have Rheumatoid Arthritis (RA) and am looking for someone who is helpful, caring, reliable, honest, dependable, fun, sociable (but can be introverted :D) intelligent to rent it. We'd have to get along as the whole place isn't that large but there is enough space for us to have spaces of our own. You'd have full-access to the kitchen and the full bathroom would be primarily yours (I would just use it for the the shower) as I have my own 1/2 bath. Additional storage on lower level along with a coin-operated machines laundry room. I'd give you access to use my car -that I rarely use because I work from home and with my RA I don't go out much -this is of course would be after a background search including driving record -and it didn't add a zillion dollars to my insurance premiums.
I have a cat. Noire. I'm obsessed with "Le Chat Noir" as you'll see when you walk in the door and it's a shabby chic kind of place. She's spayed but has claws and will be 2 years old this spring. I'm considering getting her a sibling -a younger one (I think she'll be nicer to it. She can be a bitch. :D ) because she needs a companion.
You handle garbage and recycling and I handle dishes/dishwasher. I may need help doing things around the place as I've got limited mobility.
I am also large but working on getting healthier. If you love to cook (or at least like it enough :) ) and would be willing to make us both healthier meals...I'll keep ingredients around/stocked. Coffee drinkers a plus.
420-friendly is a major plus. I'm medically approved. Cigarette smoking is allowed out outside on private balcony, vaping indoors is fine.
Night owls strongly preferred as I'd also like us to be friendly -be able to become friends and I'm not a morning person, at all even though I start at 9am on Sundays (that's a killer but the trade off for Wednesday off is worth it for now.)
If you're willing to pay for my cleaning service on a weekly basis, I'll give you a break on the rent -which includes full access to everything (except for my room/work space) wi-fi and heated attached garage, a nice courtyard and an outside pool.
In my dreams, the person who rents the room just wants a little bit of space in a warm, comfortable home. They would hang out with me late at night and/or weekends and we'd watch movies/TV and listen to music. But then are also happy to just be in their own company. I work 2nd shift M/T/Th/Fr and every Sunday. I love listening to music, binging TV shows, playing games on my tablet. I've traveled a bit, love art, theater and occasionally being spontaneous. Not into outside unless it's sitting on a balcony on a fine summer evening. I'm a kind, generous, loving person. I want you to make yourself at home.
I occasionally have friends over and you're welcome to invite yours over as well...and hey maybe we'll even have them over at the same time?
Very LGBTQIA + friendly. This is a safe space for a chill, calm, patient person.
So there. Now whether or not, I send this to a couple people looking for a room or not will be the million dollar question!
