What's It All About?


"The unexamined life is not worth living." Socrates

While you’re here, in this time and in this space, you are beautiful and you are perfect.

You are right where you need to be to get to where you want to go, so start asking yourself where you want to go.

"Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase." MLK

Sunday, August 4, 2013

Parents and children

Well, that's a loaded title 'eh?

Small dramas with my parent's in the past month or so...

It probably wouldn't hurt to do a Google search on "Aging parents with some health issues" ...

I went over for a visit the weekend prior to my birthday ...brought some laundry and gave mom a foot massage.

During the visit, conversation came up and led to my telling her that it had been observed that my becoming inactive in the religion vs. disassociating myself was the...cowardly thing to do.

Days later I get a card and a letter from my mom that made me go WTF? (but also "oh geez" and *sigh*) ...she wants me to decide if I'm going to "fish or cut bait" (seriously, that's what she said) and going to step up and disassociate myself from the religion. And if I do that, then we won't have a relationship...and it would be OK if I didn't step up...things can continue the way they are.

WTF.

Well, that's what I got out of it and I've only read it once. I don't know if I want to read it again.

Then my mother calls me the other day and I let it go to voice mail since I'm getting ready to leave for work ...she leaves a message just telling me that she loves me and misses me.

WTF.

Then she calls me again...leaves another message and then is calling again and I pick it up this time. She's crying and in pain. Feeling pain in her arm. She went to a doctor and it wasn't a blood clot or anything serious but she was miserable. And she's in Rochester for the convention and she's alone, having sent Pop off to listen to talks and such. And she's telling me that she was so happy to be talking to me because I had a way of calming her down.

WTF?

And she's telling me that Pop takes such good care of her. (Uh, hmm, I guess that explains a lot about how I love it when others take care of me.) And she's telling me how much she loves me.

*sigh*

And oh by the way, did I mention she thinks Pop is displaying signs of Alzheimer's ...both of his parent's had it ...

(Google search ...signs of Alzheimer's... :( )

WTF?

Man. Reality Bites.

I tried to reach her the next day to see how she was doing but only got her voice mail. She called back and I missed the call...she left a message that she was feeling better.  Well thank god for that.

On a happier note, it's the birthday of a very special little girl...another Leo who loves a certain person as much as I do.  And having had a wonderful birthday ...month, it makes me reflect on how great it is when you have someone in your life who loves you completely and all of the good things in life and the things to be thankful for. 

Noire

Noire
She'll be 2 years in 2 months! Time flies!

Things I'm grateful for everyday....

- My family
- My friends, old and new.
- A roof over my head.
- My computer & internet access
- Being employed (even if I don't always like things about my job)
- The public library and the joy of borrowing books with/on/for my Kindle
- That I can walk on two legs, use 2 arms/hands, have ten fingers/toes, can see and hear, etc. (uh, no offense to anyone who is physically challenged)
- Other people's creativity and efforts
- The love of a good man (he IS good)

Current Favorite Quotes

“Be content with what you have, rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.” - Lao Tzu
"The privilege of a lifetime is to be who you are." ~ Joseph Campbell
"Reflect upon your present blessings, of which every man has plenty; not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some." ~ Charles Dickens
"We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves happy. The amount of work is the same." -Carlos CastaƱeda
"..there’s something lovely about knowing that when it’s right, you really know it’s right because you’ve already been through all the wrong." ~ Sade
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." ~ Theodor Geisel (Dr. Seuss)
"
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." —Mark Twain

(This bit not so much as a quote but somethings I wrote down that I want to keep and this looks like a good place to do it)

7-25-07

1. Almost everything comes from almost nothing.
2. The best way to predict your future is to create it.
3. Leap and the net will appear.

Facts of Life (per Sonya Friedman)

  • 1. No one can bring your life to you
  • 2. No matter what you do, someone important isn't going to like it
  • 3. Though painful, rejection won't kill you - it may even lead to growth
  • 4. Every choice means giving up something different
  • 5. Some people aren't capable of giving you what you're trying to get from them
  • 6. The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others
  • 7. There are no quick fixes that can permanently change your life
  • 8. Life is on a rheostat, not an on/off switch
  • 9. Some problems cannot be solved - but you can make peace with them