What's It All About?


"The unexamined life is not worth living." Socrates

While you’re here, in this time and in this space, you are beautiful and you are perfect.

You are right where you need to be to get to where you want to go, so start asking yourself where you want to go.

"Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase." MLK

Friday, December 22, 2023

Wrapping Up 2023 & What's Ahead 2024

12/20/23

I thought I had so much to say about this year, but at the moment, I'm not feeling that like getting into all of it. :D 

I had a moment a little bit ago when I felt incredibly grateful for my life. I AM very grateful for it. 

I've learned so much about myself and I'm still learning -especially a lot about how I feel about children. 

Will that be my biggest regret? Not wanting children and losing the chance to be a parent with B. 

Maybe. 

Loving E, O & V is so easy.

............Continued, 12/22/23

So where are things with B right now? Well, The waiting continues. We're down to 2 years before A turns 18. I'm going to hate what they will all have to go through. Enough to let him go? Though we're so close to the next chapter of our love story. 

I don't know. 

I wish I could have a fight with him where he fights back, and after we have this fight, we've cleared the air and can keep moving forward. It pisses me off when I get mad and he just takes it. Makes himself out to be the bad guy and the only one to blame for this. I can't convince him that we're both responsible for our choices. 

I love him desperately. 

Truly, madly, deeply. 

Btw, I don't want to hear him say he doesn't want to fight back and "say something [he'll] regret" -because what does that mean? What does he think he would say that would be that bad? The worst thing he could say is that he is done with me. Done with us. 

I used to think he would never say that but now I'm not so sure. It's been a rough couple of years...probably the toughest we've been through so far. 

What do I need from him? What does he need from me? 

In the meantime, in school, Strayer - 3 quarters in a row, A's, and as of now, I've got a 4.0 GPA. And I'm back to doing Sophia courses in between. 

So 2023 was a year of academic success, continuing my relationship with B, and learning how to love and care for someone other than myself in the form of a young man I really wish was my kid. 

V has turned my world upside down. And I'm finding that fine line between caring and not putting myself in a position that will bring me sorrow down the road when he leaves and moves on to the next place. That's what you have to do sometimes: let them go. 

I'm not so great at that. 

In other news, I bought my first Christmas tree EVER. I felt like it was something fun to do for "the family." 

I've embraced coloring my hair. I am painting my nails black and loving it. I'm finding it fun to do things I did when I was younger. 

The same people inhabit my world, and overall, life is good. 

Things ahead in 2024 -

    - New health insurance through work, and I'm hoping that they will also approve and cover my breast reduction surgery, scheduled for February 9th. 

    - V will start going to school in person, Watershed High School. First day/orientation on January 15th. 

    - School will also continue for me. Sophia courses, too, to get more general credits done. 

  Well, that's it for now. 

Onward and Upward. 

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Noire

Noire
She'll be 2 years in 2 months! Time flies!

Things I'm grateful for everyday....

- My family
- My friends, old and new.
- A roof over my head.
- My computer & internet access
- Being employed (even if I don't always like things about my job)
- The public library and the joy of borrowing books with/on/for my Kindle
- That I can walk on two legs, use 2 arms/hands, have ten fingers/toes, can see and hear, etc. (uh, no offense to anyone who is physically challenged)
- Other people's creativity and efforts
- The love of a good man (he IS good)

Current Favorite Quotes

“Be content with what you have, rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.” - Lao Tzu
"The privilege of a lifetime is to be who you are." ~ Joseph Campbell
"Reflect upon your present blessings, of which every man has plenty; not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some." ~ Charles Dickens
"We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves happy. The amount of work is the same." -Carlos Castañeda
"..there’s something lovely about knowing that when it’s right, you really know it’s right because you’ve already been through all the wrong." ~ Sade
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." ~ Theodor Geisel (Dr. Seuss)
"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." —Mark Twain

(This bit not so much as a quote but somethings I wrote down that I want to keep and this looks like a good place to do it)

7-25-07

1. Almost everything comes from almost nothing.
2. The best way to predict your future is to create it.
3. Leap and the net will appear.

Facts of Life (per Sonya Friedman)

  • 1. No one can bring your life to you
  • 2. No matter what you do, someone important isn't going to like it
  • 3. Though painful, rejection won't kill you - it may even lead to growth
  • 4. Every choice means giving up something different
  • 5. Some people aren't capable of giving you what you're trying to get from them
  • 6. The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others
  • 7. There are no quick fixes that can permanently change your life
  • 8. Life is on a rheostat, not an on/off switch
  • 9. Some problems cannot be solved - but you can make peace with them